Harriette Cole: After my wedding, she blasted me as pretentious
DEAR HARRIETTE I have a huge family and a long list of friends I ve built over the years from college work my sorority my neighborhood locality clubs church and so much more Related Articles Harriette Cole I threw myself into planning our parents party and this is what I got Harriette Cole My son won t forgive me for being a mama bear Harriette Cole I m on a new path but my boyfriend wants the old me Harriette Cole He s putting my photos online under his name Harriette Cole I don t want my book club to think I m uptight As my husband and I were planning our wedding we realized our guest list was way too long and my process of elimination was based on current social proximity meaning how close I am with a person now A friend I grew up with someone I still love but just don t see or speak with frequently reached out to me after the wedding to tell me off Even after she d heard about invitations being sent out she assumed hers was just a bit delayed She accused me of being pretentious and thinking that I am better than our childhood friends How do I respond to a message like this She s totally wrong about my reasoning and while I still have love for her I shouldn t have to explain my life choices to someone who harbors so much animosity Guest List DEAR GUEST LIST Your childhood friend s feelings are hurt She lashed out in an inappropriate manner but hopefully you can see through that Call her back and apologize for not being able to invite her to your wedding Tell her that as much as you required to include everyone who has been close to you in your life you did not have the space or budget to do so You had to make tough decisions in limiting your guest list to your current closest friends and family Tell her you did not mean to hurt her or any others from your childhood DEAR HARRIETTE I am struggling to get my healthcare on track My medical professional has warned me that I am prediabetic I have seen other people my age who have diabetes and particular of the side effects that come with it when therapy and diet are not taken seriously but for a few reason that doesn t seem to be enough for me to change my own procedures I don t really eat a multitude of sweets but I think my affinity for pizza pasta bagels and other carb-heavy foods is the real culprit Since I got this fitness update I ve tried to make certain changes but I fall right back into my old habits and cravings I am often thinking about what I will eat next Do I have a food addiction I am afraid that I can t get a handle on my own eating habits even for my own good Healthcare on the Line DEAR STRENGTH ON THE LINE Changing habits is hard for everyone Your food cravings are real and they need to be addressed The good news is that you are aware of this Related Articles Miss Manners Is it narcissistic to display a studio portrait of oneself in the home Dear Abby I stated I d be in their wedding but I m so upset by the processional plan Jill On Money The great lock in San Jose man wonders why his dog licks him but no one else Asking Eric We need to deal with this no-show volunteer but kindly Ask your medical professional to refer you to a dietitian who can help you map out your meals and create discipline in your eating Give yourself grace as you change your habits but do take this seriously The alarm has rung that you are prediabetic Work as hard as you can now to avoid having full-blown diabetes later Have you explored with your specialist taking any of the newer weight loss drugs out there You may also want to get a therapist to help you sort through your relationship to food If you do have a food addiction the professional can help you deal with that Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams You can send questions to askharriette harriettecole com or c o Andrews McMeel Syndication Walnut St Kansas City MO
