Dear Abby: My granddaughter is a nightmare, and timeouts are no use

DEAR ABBY Our daughter and her family live an hour from us She got a late start on marriage and children their girls are and Related Articles Dear Abby I m worried about my friend s sudden interest in men Dear Abby My ex-wife is our housemate and my girlfriend isn t happy about it Dear Abby My daughter has all these rules about my grandson and it s so stressful for me Dear Abby Parents cute idea leaves tutor in stressful situation Dear Abby My teenage stepdaughter is queen of the castle The little one is sweet and shy but the -year-old is a nightmare to be around She s very smart but also manipulative She lies cheats and steals She is rude and seems to perpetually do exactly the opposite of what an adult tells her to do If her parents see her being sassy or ugly they will put her in timeout for minutes but nothing ever changes None of their neighbors wants this child at their home To make matters worse she has begun puberty We can t stand being around this -year-old because it wears us out We are both in fair wellbeing We love our daughter and would like to have a good relationship with the whole family Please advise on how we could help or what we should do EXHAUSTED GRANDPARENTS IN OHIO DEAR GRANDPARENTS A -minute timeout is not enough discipline for a -year-old s consistent bad behavior Without further intervention that girl is headed for big trouble Please suggest to your daughter that she consult a child psychologist about how to get her obviously troubled daughter heading in the right direction before things become worse DEAR ABBY I had a friend Mylene for plenty of years We swapped dog-sitting to offset the cost for each other I helped her when she was sick and when she broke her foot walking her dog whenever she needed me If a funeral wedding or family urgency came up I was dependably there for her An aunt of mine in another state passed away The funeral was scheduled then delayed because of logistical issues Mylene initially explained she d keep my dog but when the date changed she revealed she couldn t do it I have to work she noted Abby her dog stays at home while she works so why is there a matter I reminded her of everything that I have done to help her out when she needed it but she didn t want to help me This was two days before I was to voyage for the funeral I have tried a multitude of times to apologize to Mylene but she refuses to make amends with me All she does is send emojis which I find disgusting Can t she call and talk to me like a grown adult to straighten this out I paid her several times to help her and this is what I get What do you think about this DISAPPOINTED IN NORTH CAROLINA Related Articles Asking Eric I had a doozy of a year and I let it all hang out in my Christmas card Harriette Cole I m in my s and that s too old to date a man who acts like this Miss Manners They publicly oppose my rights then accuse me of intolerance Dear Abby I m worried about my friend s sudden interest in men Asking Eric I didn t know why my friends ditched me and then I remembered Paulo DEAR DISAPPOINTED You have done plenty for Mylene but the time to remind her wasn t when she declared she couldn t take care of your dog Is this why you have tried countless times to apologize Mylene may have sent emojis instead of calling because you embarrassed her When we do favors for others we shouldn t do them with the expectation that we will be paid back What do I think about this I think you should find another dog-sitter right away Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA