Miss Manners: The maid of honor’s wedding-day surprise was not a pleasant one

DEAR MISS MANNERS My daughter was married this past weekend Related Articles Miss Manners My wife s habit makes me cringe After all these years should I say something Miss Manners Is my husband right that my phone alarm is rude Miss Manners The graduation invitation now sounds almost like a threat Miss Manners Why do they doubt I m really an engineer Miss Manners What s the best way to dodge a fishy hug And what if they chase me She originally invited her maid of honor Sophie without a plus-one because my daughter was unaware of any relationship Sophie s parents were also not invited and this was intentional Sophie complained and sought for a plus-one so that her boyfriend Sam whom my daughter had never met could attend with her On the day of the wedding while my daughter was getting ready one hour before the ceremony Sophie announced I have a surprise for you Sam can t attend in the present day because of a family emergency She then opened the door to the hotel room to reveal her mother standing there Sophie finished So my mom is here to take his place My daughter was put on the spot and so were my wife and I Sophie s boyfriend was going to be seated with her and the rest of the bridal party so we had to rearrange the seating and find a spot for her mother At that point we didn t really have a choice in the matter whether we required her there or not without causing a possible scene I personally believe this was the plan by Sophie and her mother all along once they discovered out her parents were not invited To make matters worse Sophie s mother presented up at the after-party back at the hotel and started telling people who she was how she was not invited even though she was the maid of honor s mother My wife and I had all we could do to restrain ourselves from throwing her out Aside from this one fiasco the day was beautiful What do you think of all of this GENTLE READER That it was exceptionally rude Miss Manners is just grateful that you were able to restrain yourself from ejecting the wedding crasher and otherwise enjoy the day But if you would like to exact various passive-aggressive revenge you might try relentlessly inquiring after Sam and his family exigency DEAR MISS MANNERS Both of my husband s brothers came to visit us at the same time The older brother arrived a minimal days earlier and chose a guest bedroom to sleep in The younger brother didn t like the remaining available bedroom saying he thought it was haunted He inquired to sleep on the couch which I refused assuring him that the room wasn t haunted He s no longer speaking to me or my husband As a good host should I have let him sleep on the couch Related Articles Dear Abby I ascertained these photos of his proposal to another woman Asking Eric I was just rubbing my son s head and my husband got weirded out Harriette Cole I want our vacation to be G-rated and my son s girlfriend is not Miss Manners My wife s habit makes me cringe After all these years should I say something Dear Abby She wants to dress my little girl in sequins and leopard print GENTLE READER Had your brother-in-law given you a reasonable excuse perhaps back pain or another physical issue or even made one up Miss Manners might have been inclined to let him take the couch The one given seems insultingly ridiculous although Miss Manners does not know enough about ghosts to say In any occurrence giving you the silent restoration seems extreme and will presumably come back to haunt him Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website www missmanners com to her email gentlereader missmanners com or through postal mail to Miss Manners Andrews McMeel Syndication Walnut St Kansas City MO