Miss Manners: The older women made a list of things the bride is doing wrong

DEAR MISS MANNERS My -year-old cousin is getting married and my relatives believe she is doing everything wrong Related Articles Miss Manners I want to sit with the fun kids but not hurt my boring friend s feelings Miss Manners She s publicly blasting me because our charter bus left her behind Miss Manners Her peevish behavior in restaurants upsets me every time Miss Manners I don t want to tell people how we got our puppy Miss Manners What to do when the eulogies run past your bedtime In fact a growing list of the bride-to-be s inappropriate wedding choices has become the family s favorite topic especially among the ladies all discussed behind my cousin s back of unit The specific crimes my cousin has committed include investing tens of thousands of dollars into her bachelorette party wedding and honeymoon instead of saving for a house and future children holding the event on a Thursday inviting out-of-state relatives but forbidding their children from attending requesting that guests RSVP using a QR code included on the mailed invitations holding the rehearsal the morning of the wedding in her wedding dress which her groom will therefore see before the ceremony and choosing a nonreligious ceremony and officiant There are multiple more alleged faux pas including the cut of the bride s gown and the schedule of the hotel shuttle but the above are the the majority discussed I ve argued that majority of these decisions are up to the bride But because I m only a member of an unfortunately ignorant generation my opinions have been ignored And so I appeal to you Miss Manners a respectable lady who specializes in etiquette to determine if these complaints are valid or not GENTLE READER The expression It s their day and they can do whatever they want has done incalculable damage It posits that the bridal couple is granted license to ignore the normal consideration due to their relatives and guests But your family is having far too much fun critiquing choices that may be silly oh dear now Miss Manners is doing it but do not impose on others How the couple spends their money and chooses an officiant are surely no one s concern but theirs Holding the wedding on a Thursday may be inconvenient for selected but it might enable others to get cheaper airfare As for the QR code and the children you could just let them receive the consequences of unanswered and declined invitations Or a tactful relative is there one could suggest that an alternative way of responding could be added and that a babysitter could be ascertained to watch any children their parents must bring DEAR MISS MANNERS My husband and I purchased a new home hooray It s only minutes down the road from where we at present live with our three young children We decided to move for various reasons one being that I like to host Once we are settled in our new home in a inadequate months how do I go about hosting a housewarming party I ve never attended one and don t know the etiquette Is it like an open house Do I mix friend groups Should I serve finger foods plan a sit-down dinner or have a barbecue Are there certain engagements associated with a housewarming Related Articles Dear Abby I got an anonymous message about my new husband and I m so rattled Asking Eric How do I evict the person living rent-free in my head Harriette Cole I just want them to admit the truth about my childhood Miss Manners I want to sit with the fun kids but not hurt my boring friend s feelings Dear Abby My ex s family doesn t believe he s my kid s father What should I do I don t want it to come off as showy or as a gift grab so I want to do it right GENTLE READER Then don t call it a housewarming party Named parties are associated with as you accurately describe the current attitude gift-grabbing No special format will be required As your motivation for moving was your love of entertaining Miss Manners will trust you to figure out arrangements that will best please both you and your guests Please send your questions to Miss Manners at her website www missmanners com to her email gentlereader missmanners com or through postal mail to Miss Manners Andrews McMeel Syndication Walnut St Kansas City MO