Harriette Cole: My wife has some words about our friends’ blatant sponging

DEAR HARRIETTE My wife and I along with a insufficient family friends needed to journey to Canada for a funeral We decided it would be more economical to drive so I booked the rental wagon Related Articles Harriette Cole I didn t have for her private chef and now my friend is mad at me Harriette Cole My husband wants another kid but for my own well-being I must say no Harriette Cole I haven t gone back to the office since this embarrassing happening Harriette Cole He wasn t a good boyfriend so why can t I forget him Harriette Cole She walked out of the party saying my new girlfriend and I embarrassed her Our friends let us know that they d send us their contribution before we hit the road The day before our departure they called saying they might just take a bus because it s more affordable despite us choosing the rental car together and agreeing on pricing My wife and I decided to invite them to join us in the carpool anyway because the car was already paid for but I uncovered all the back and forth to be a nuisance we had checked in with them every step of the way and we had all agreed I ended up doing all the driving and covered gas tolls and the cost of the car My wife wants to say something to our friends but I think that may be awkward What do you think Carpool DEAR CARPOOL Emotions were likely high given that you and your friends were going to a funeral but your friends were wrong They broke an agreement that you made together and took advantage of you by not contributing at all to the cost of the trip They should be ashamed of themselves You have every right to speak to them about this Remind them that you all agreed on the advance plans and the sharing of costs They reneged When you offered to let them ride with you anyway they should have at least contributed to gas and tolls Too bad you didn t ask them straight up to pay their share anyway You can tell them now how you feel and ask for them to make a contribution to defray a few of the costs DEAR HARRIETTE I m an executive assistant with years of experience under my belt I have been with my current company for the past three years exhibiting rise and leadership and I ve even been trusted to conduct interviews and training for new hires I was originally hired to be an assistant for a director at my company Early this year one of the C-suite execs lost their assistant and I was petitioned to pull that weight and offer full-time sponsorship along with my existing workload It has been complicated but honestly I ve enjoyed the challenge Working with the C-suite can be hard and it has been but I enjoy learning through a different lens in the company Despite enjoying this new role I believe my efforts are worthy of proper compensation This new role alone often makes anywhere between and more than I am at this moment earning and I am handling both jobs How do I remind my higher-ups of my value at the firm and respectfully request a well-deserved raise Two Jobs in One Related Articles Miss Manners Is it OK to flee an introduction to an odious person Dear Abby Every day he noted he was going to his job but I determined out it was a lie When self-doubt creeps in at work pause and reframe your negative thoughts Here s how Asking Eric My girlfriend thinks I had an affair with a woman from church and so do her friends Harriette Cole I didn t have for her private chef and now my friend is mad at me DEAR TWO JOBS IN ONE Do you have a mentor at work If so talk to that person about strategy If not request a meeting with your direct supervisor Describe how you have been enjoying the challenge over the past scarce months Share what your long-term goals are at the company Don t be afraid to dream big out loud Ask what they are thinking about for the future of this role Point out that you have been doing two jobs for several months and would appreciate being compensated for the additional role as you also hope they will consider you for a role that is in alignment with your vision Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams You can send questions to askharriette harriettecole com or c o Andrews McMeel Syndication Walnut St Kansas City MO