Dear Abby: The babysitting is destroying our marriage
DEAR ABBY My wife and I stopped having sexual relations eight years ago Related Articles Dear Abby My husband and his buddy discovered the ex-girlfriend s message hilarious I did not Dear Abby He s a great guy but nobody wants to go to his house Dear Abby I longed a fresh start with my daughter but things haven t turned out that way Dear Abby The new neighbors encroached on us then mentioned we re the matter Dear Abby My son was joking around and the other kid s parents billed me for the damage She keeps our two grandchildren to hours a day five and sometimes six days a week That s to hours By the time they re picked up she s irritated agitated frustrated and wants to be left alone She doesn t want to talk or spend any time with me She can t see that keeping the grandkids that much has interfered with our relationship with each other We are about to separate because I don t want to live my last minimal years with someone I can t hold or kiss and who doesn t want to hold or kiss me because she s so irritated and frustrated by the time the kids leave She doesn t want to be bothered She just sits in her recliner and goes to sleep There s plenty of love loyalty and trust between us but after eight years of no intimacy I think I have waited long enough I have tried talking to her about it multiple times She says she has lost her desire but she can t see the reason is because she s having that same bad day every day Any advice before I finalize this HAD IT IN ALABAMA DEAR HAD IT I am glad you wrote There may be more than one reason your wife s capacity and sex drive have disappeared You state that there is plenty of love loyalty and trust between you Please suggest to her that she consult her practitioner and ask to have her hormone levels checked I can t help wondering how old your grandchildren are and why she is expected to take care of them for to hours a day It may entirely be too much for her However a thyroid issue or a decrease in estrogen may also be contributing to her exhaustion If that s the matter there are healthcare solutions available if your wife is willing to explore them Your marriage is worth fighting for and I hope your wife will see the wisdom before she or your relationship collapses under the weight of the responsibility she has taken on DEAR ABBY I am a -year-old woman who has no surviving immediate family I have two cousins who are still living One of them is my age and to this day he may not know he was adopted as a baby I discovered it when I was very young and snooped through my mother s nightstand drawer I mentioned it to my aunt his adoptive mother years ago and she made me promise not to ever tell him Related Articles Asking Eric My brother is being horrible to us and we don t know why Harriette Cole My parents are coming to visit and I m panicking Miss Manners I lied about why I wasn t drinking and that just dug the hole deeper Dear Abby My husband and his buddy unveiled the ex-girlfriend s message hilarious I did not Asking Eric It took him a year to ask why I wasn t coming around anymore Is it best to let him live his entire life not knowing or should I somehow bring it up to him COUSIN WHO WANTS THE BEST FOR HIM DEAR COUSIN I will assume that both of your cousin s parents are deceased How do you think he will feel when you announce that his entire life has been a lie Do you think he will be warmly greeted and accepted by siblings who never knew he existed I know you are eager to tell him the truth but the truth is that his parents are the people who raised him At this late date I think it would be better to keep the promise you gave to your aunt rather than disrupt your cousin s life Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA
