Dear Abby: My son’s wedding stands to be very traumatic for me

DEAR ABBY My child Logan is the product of a sexual assault He located his father and formed a relationship with him Related Articles Dear Abby I got an anonymous message about my new husband and I m so rattled Dear Abby My ex s family doesn t believe he s my kid s father What should I do Dear Abby I ve been described to apologize to my daughter s lazy immature boyfriend Dear Abby She doesn t deserve the perks of a grandmother Dear Abby My dad wants to take this teen in It s going to be a tragedy Logan didn t know the circumstances of his conception at the time he contacted his father He has now been made fully aware by our family as to what occurred Abby Logan has invited this person to his wedding I do not want to attend if his father will be present Logan has narrated me that this man will be attending and that the difficulty is my issue I love my son but this is beyond traumatic for me I want to be there for the special day but I cannot bring myself to be in the same room with the person who assaulted me This situation has broken my heart I feel as though my feelings don t matter to Logan and that he expects me to just push through this go to the wedding and deal with it What are your thoughts WORST-CASE SCENARIO DEAR WORST-CASE Your son s insensitivity to your feelings is appalling That he would demand you ignore the fact that you were a rape victim and spend even a minute in the perpetrator s presence is outrageous Whatever decision you make to move forward is the right one for you I am so sorry for your pain which is palpable DEAR ABBY I work with a lady who has drama swirling around her constantly There s unfailingly something wrong with work her house her family herself her pets etc Each trouble is worse than the next At first I was sympathetic and let her vent Then I realized this is a daily occurrence and all this negativity is draining not only my patience but also my mental healthcare I have tried promptly moving past her work area but she then follows me to mine When I tried getting to work before she did she started coming in earlier When I tell her I need to complete an assignment she continues to talk I d like to put various distance between us But she s a nice person and I hate to say I really can t listen to you complain every day Any suggestions RUNNING OUT OF PATIENCE DEAR RUNNING Yes quit being such a nice person yourself and stop letting this co-worker use you as a trouble dump The next time she approaches you tell her that what she s doing is interfering with your work and sapping your potency and you can no longer allow it Say plainly that you need her to stop If she doesn t discuss the concern with your supervisor or HR Related Articles Asking Eric Because of the dispute about the dress I skipped the wedding Now the bride won t speak to me Harriette Cole Why am I being blamed for my friend s hurt feelings Miss Manners The older women made a list of things the bride is doing wrong Dear Abby I got an anonymous message about my new husband and I m so rattled Asking Eric How do I evict the person living rent-free in my head DEAR READERS The next morning is Thanksgiving and no Thanksgiving would be complete without sharing the traditional prayer penned by my dear late mother Oh Heavenly Father We thank Thee for food and remember the hungry We thank Thee for wellness and remember the sick We thank Thee for friends and remember the friendless We thank Thee for freedom and remember the enslaved May these remembrances stir us to amenity that Thy gifts to us may be used for others Amen Have a happy and safe celebration everyone Love ABBY Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA