Dear Abby: My husband said the text he got from my brother was just a joke. Should I believe him?

DEAR ABBY My husband and I have been married for three years The greater part of that time it has been perfect Related Articles Dear Abby My friend disclosed there was no wedding date Then I uncovered her website Dear Abby I got this new shirt and now women won t leave me alone Dear Abby Their kids and the baby are ruining our bar time Dear Abby I realized what s triggering my migraines and now I have a new concern Dear Abby I was trying to focus on my chores and my wife blew up at me Six months ago we received specific amazing news We are expecting a child This was a miracle We had been struggling to conceive and I had almost given up hope that it would ever happen My challenge is when my husband and I started dating my husband and my brother became fast friends At first I was thrilled that the man I loved got along so great with my family But ever since the news of our pregnancy they have become almost inseparable They text constantly and it seems almost every weekend they are taking a hunting trip or going to the casinos My husband says he s just trying to have certain fun before the baby comes along Am I wrong to feel he should be spending more time with me the pregnant mother of his future child He s a great provider and a loving husband when he is present but I can t help but feel neglected One evening we were sitting on the couch watching TV and I happened to get a glimpse of his phone I noticed he was texting my brother as usual but then I saw the text from my brother Goodnight babe with a heart emoji I didn t mean to snoop but I was shocked and couldn t unsee this I at once petitioned what was going on and he very defensively notified me it was an inside joke and that I shouldn t be reading his texts over his shoulder I feel crazy for even thinking what I m thinking but could something be going on between my brother and my husband I don t even know how to begin to confront this issue and I m afraid if I ask my husband point-blank he will lie to my face I feel lost and betrayed Please help CRESTFALLEN IN COLORADO DEAR CRESTFALLEN As thrilled as you are about this pregnancy your husband may be less so In fact he may regard the approaching arrival of his child as a door closing on having a life There are straight men men s men who prefer the company of men over that of women Because you are afraid to confront your husband about what you saw have an in-person talk with your brother and ask him why he sent a heart emoji to your husband DEAR ABBY I have been married to my husband for eight years He lost his mom years ago Ever since her cremation he has kept her ashes in the living room It scares me because I believe in ghosts Related Articles Asking Eric I figured out my wife s password and caught her in a lie Harriette Cole My friend is getting odd texts and she says I need to intervene Miss Manners The secret about my new house got out and now things are awkward at work Dear Abby My friend reported there was no wedding date Then I located her website Asking Eric I was fuming the entire flight because of the man next to me I know it s hard to let go of our dear ones I lost my own mom a insufficient years ago so I know the feeling How can I convince him to take the ashes out of the house or put them in the ground without hurting him emotionally SPOOKED IN PENNSYLVANIA DEAR SPOOKED Honey if your late mother-in-law is coming back to haunt you she will do it regardless of where her ashes are located Yes your husband is having trouble letting go of the remnants of his mother but he s hurting no one She may visit you sooner if you push her out from under your roof Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA