Dear Abby: I picked my baby’s name, and now I’m told a hypothetical child has dibs

DEAR ABBY I am pregnant with the first-born grandson on both sides Related Articles Dear Abby I slapped my boyfriend s grandfather so hard he fell off his chair Dear Abby I disclosed I d be in their wedding but I m so upset by the processional plan Dear Abby If I answer truthfully to what s new they start crying Dear Abby People who knew me before are understandably nervous around me Dear Abby The other grandparents forgot about the gift Should we try to fix things My husband and I plan to use my husband s middle name for our son s first name and my father s middle name for his middle name My father is the III but has no sons so we thought this would be a way to honor him and represent my side of the family My sister is the first person we shared our son s name with The following day she called me to express her displeasure because she perpetually planned to use our father s middle name as a first name for a son I knew this but I didn t think using it as a middle name would be an issue Additionally she s younger than I am unmarried and childless She was so upset with me that I had to end the phone call because it escalated to yelling During the call she suggested that for the middle name I instead use our father s first name which my husband and I don t think flows well or my maiden name Must I change my son s intended name because my sister wants to be the first to use our father s middle name for a anticipated future son PICKING A NAME IN THE EAST DEAR PICKING How your sister got into the middle of what you and your husband decide about your baby s name is beyond me Of lesson you don t have to alter your plans to suit your sister Stop being a people-pleaser particularly where your offspring is concerned Name your baby boy what you think is best and do not look back DEAR ABBY I am a -year-old woman dating a wonderful man my age I purchased a house in my s earned several degrees own my own business and have achieved success However I haven t had the best luck with the last sparse guys I ve dated The man I m dating now doesn t seem to grasp a few of life s necessities He doesn t shower often wears the same attire several days in a row drinks daily and stays out all night every weekend When we met he had no job and no car and was living with a friend It s been three months and he has secured a job He has practically moved himself into my home and is helping with the finances but he still doesn t shower He does do housework though I have had several conversations with him about his hygiene and he makes promises but doesn t deliver Related Articles Asking Eric My rituals to keep my loved ones alive have taken over my life Harriette Cole My boss follows my social media and I don t know what to do Miss Manners I d been growing my hair out and the barber blithely chopped it off Dear Abby I slapped my boyfriend s grandfather so hard he fell off his chair Asking Eric I m so hurt that she informed this story from my drunken days My family thinks I m desperate for love and that I should let this guy go What do you think LOSING HOPE IN PENNSYLVANIA DEAR LOSING HOPE More major than what your family thinks about this is what do you think Because your wonderful man s body odor is offensive give him an ultimatum Tell him that as much as you are beginning to care for him this is a deal-breaker and if he wants to continue living with you he ll have to shower regularly Then give him a schedule or show him the door Whew Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA