Dear Abby: I deliberately goaded my sister-in-law, and I’m on the brink of escalation
DEAR ABBY My husband and I just now moved out of state His only living relative a sister lately came to visit Related Articles Dear Abby My mom at last wants to get to know my kids It s too late Dear Abby I at last uncovered out why he has been hiding his hair Dear Abby What do I look like the Cheesecake Factory Dear Abby I was stunned to see my new co-worker perform this mocking dance Dear Abby I noticed something odd in the baby photos Should I tell the mom She has never been married She is a retired professional and has a good retirement especially since she has no children During her visit she gave us a housewarming greeting card with a Visa gift card This was unique as she has never in years given us money She s very tight with her money and perpetually insists on paying for her part of any restaurant bill separately While she was here I made a comment about her paying for a coffee for her brother and she became highly offended I knew she would be so I kind of goaded her She then mentioned the gift card she gave us and reported I allegedly didn t even tell her brother about it even though he was in the room when she gave it to us We don t need her money and I want to mail it back to her and say thanks for the thought but we don t need it What do you think I should do THANKS NO THANKS IN FLORIDA DEAR THANKS Really I think that rather than try to create more problems with your sister-in-law you should write her and apologize for your comment about the coffee Instead of returning the gift card be gracious and accept it Shame on you for knowingly stirring the pot DEAR ABBY I m a widow My partner died months ago We were together for seven years but never married I have now located a partner who is years younger than I am We love each other and want to be married My predicament is he is only separated from his wife He says he doesn t want her and he hates her because she betrayed him They are getting a divorce but if I stay with him I feel that I ll be stepping between them What should I do stay and hope for the best or leave him IN THE MIDDLE IN MASSACHUSETTS DEAR IN THE MIDDLE This romance is in its infancy You have been widowed for only months There s wisdom in the adage that after a trauma like the one you have suffered a person should make no major decisions for a year Related Articles Asking Eric I made a big mistake in getting a dog Harriette Cole I need to honor my feelings about the broken vase Miss Manners How do I tell them I m not as rich as they think Dear Abby My mom decisively wants to get to know my kids It s too late Asking Eric They released me to child services Should I assessment their situation as well Has this man or his wife filed the divorce papers or is he only thinking about it If the papers have been filed then you are not coming between him and his wife Divorce can also be traumatic and frankly I am surprised that this man would contemplate remarriage before his divorce is final Rather than decide whether to leave him take your time and see how this relationship plays out DEAR READERS Happy Father s Day to fathers everywhere birth fathers stepfathers adoptive and foster fathers grandfathers and all of you caring men who mentor children and fill the role of absent dads P S Also a big shout-out to dual-role moms I applaud you all the present day and every day LOVE ABBY Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA
