Dear Abby: After the thrilling kiss, I want to send him a message, but I’m afraid his wife will see it

DEAR ABBY I m struggling with my integrity and an fundamental friendship Related Articles Dear Abby The bartender commented he d give the cash to the bride Was I wrong to involve her mother Dear Abby My podcast might cost me my marriage Dear Abby My sister the favored child believes the lie my father tells about me Dear Abby I don t want kids but then who will take care of me when I m old Dear Abby I m afraid to tell my mom who my new boyfriend is Jerry the husband of my friend Beth came to my house to help with a construction project After discussing the project we sat down to visit for a bit He was very forward with me and overly affectionate It s been years since I ve had any affection He also talked about how affection doesn t have to mean anything which I believe is true to an extent I communicated him it was inappropriate but I didn t stop either of us when Jerry kissed me before leaving Part of me was thrilled at being kissed again even though I know it was wrong I am sure that I won t allow it to happen again I m afraid to contact him and deliver that message directly because there s a chance it wouldn t be a private message I couldn t tolerate Beth knowing this happened I treasure her friendship I ve no idea if Jerry revealed anything to her about what happened I m panicked that I may have lost a treasured friend Advice AFRAID AND WORRIED DEAR AFRAID I do have selected If Jerry behaved this way with you it is likely that he does this with other women who consult him about construction projects I don t think it is necessary for you to inform Beth about what happened but seriously consider using another construction company for your repairs now and in the future Jerry appears to be a classic cheater and you are vulnerable after a long dry spell DEAR ABBY My son Grant who is is autistic My ex-wife removed him from a group home five years ago and took him out of the country I made a mistake years ago by allowing her to have guardianship I tried to stop them from leaving I have had zero communication with my ex or Grant in those five years My -year-old daughter her three children and her husband live with me I have another daughter age who lives independently My daughters have been in constant communication with their mother My ex comes to the U S once a year and meets with them Both daughters had complicated younger years because Grant was violent I have a good relationship with both of them But every time I ask about Grant I receive angry responses I wouldn t be surprised if Grant is no longer alive Related Articles Asking Eric We re not sure she deserves part of the inheritance Harriette Cole He mistook me for someone else a woman I consider obese Miss Manners I m uncomfortable about the strange men on the street Dear Abby The bartender explained he d give the cash to the bride Was I wrong to involve her mother Jill On Money Giving thanks to my readers I realize I likely don t have that countless more years and may depart this world without knowing anything about him I haven t had a photo or a word Is there anything I can do SAD FATHER IN NEW JERSEY DEAR SAD FATHER So your ex-wife and daughters have a code of silence regarding the whereabouts and welfare of your son How cruel Of program there s something you can do Pick up the phone discuss this with your lawyer and ask what information he or she can unearth about Grant If necessary hire a private detective to uncover where your ex took him and whether he s still living You have my sympathy Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA